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List of Questions for Spirit-
There are several core questions you should always ask Spirit in order to build a solid connection and give evidence to your sitter. When opening up, ask them to step forward showing/telling the first two questions when they engage you, and indicate the third question. If you are doing mental mediumship, have them show you/tell you the location. If you are doing physical mediumship, have them indicate on your body with a warmness or coldness (your preference) rather than giving you the pain from the passing. The rest you will ask once your connection is established.
Fluff!- As a Medium, one of the most important things we do in our work is to engage in Evidential Mediumship. We are the conduit between this earthly plane and that of Spirit. What we bring to the table must leave the sitter feeling as though they have actually talked to their loved one on the other side. As Janet Nohavec once said, “I paint people back to life with my words, and I won’t settle for anything less than a verbal masterpiece every time.” As a medium, you need to be as detailed as possible, bringing evidence to the sitter. They are not with you for a psychic reading, they are with you to connect to their loved one. This means you need to describe in detail what you see, hear, feel, and sense from Spirit, NOT the sitter. What clothes are they wearing? Describe everything you see right down to their shoes. If you hear a song while connecting, convey that to your sitter. Do you see a photo of the person in Spirit sitting on their mantle at home? Let them know Spirit sees it as well! Yes, this is a LOT of hard work. You want to amaze yourself EVERY time with your accuracy and detail, as well as your client…not because you want to be world famous and in the limelight, or because you want to be rich, but because this is sacred, spiritual work. You are a messenger of the Creator to bring healing and closure to those who need it most, and to affirm that there is indeed life after we pass on. By showing the continuity of life, we help erase fears. By bringing a loved one forward with extreme detail, we dispel the notion that we will never see our loved ones again. Above all, we bring hope to those still here in human form. When it comes to “fluff” as I like to call it, this is the finite details that you can gather from Spirit. It is also the icing on the cake for helping your client feel that you have indeed been a mouthpiece for their loved one on the other side. Often, this is all about drilling down with the details you are given. For example… “I have a grandfather here with me in Spirit. He is about 6 ft tall, lean, and has salt and pepper hair. He is dressed in coveralls and has stains all over his clothes.” OR “It feels like I have a grandfather here with me in Spirit. He is standing on my left side, which to me indicates he is on your mother’s side. He stands about 6 ft tall but is slightly stooped over. He appears to be in his late 60’s early 70’s as well. His build is lean and wiry, like he has worked hard most of his life. His hair is salt and pepper, and he shows me that as a younger man it was black. His skin is rough, almost wind chapped in appearance. He is also dressed in coveralls, which have stains. It looks like the stains are dirt. He is showing me his hands, which are calloused, and he is indicating he worked outside. He is also showing me a tractor, which is my sign for farming.” See the difference? From the information you are being given, you can drill down even further. Ask him what type of crops he harvested, or where the farm was located. Ask him to show you his “Sunday Best” and describe that as well. Once you have gathered as much information as you can from the initial connection, ask the Spirit to give you other important validation points and do the exact same thing. What Fluff does NOT mean… Never pad a reading with things that are not there. For example, you are scheduled to do a reading for an hour, but you have given as much information as you can get along with messages from Spirit for your sitter. You have 15 minutes left. What do you do? Open the reading to questions from your sitter. Do not just stretch it out by adding details that are not being given…this is extremely unethical. If there are no questions, recap any messages briefly, and tie up the session, thanking your sitter for allowing you to connect with them and their loved ones. As someone who grew up seeing Spirit, not having a parent around who could help explain or help me understand what I saw was a huge burden. As an adult, I have worked hard to make sure other children don't go through the same issues that I myself went through, and I have put together several classes and workshops to help with this. Here, I will address some tips to help you as a parent or caregiver help the child who is gifted.
Signs to Look For
How to Communicate Effectively In communicating with gifted children there is a certain finesse that needs to be undertaken. As they are naturally sensitive, how you come across to them and how they receive it is of the utmost importance. Every person learns in a different manner, and when we communicate, this needs to be taken into consideration. Let’s begin by touching on the different learning styles, and from there we will discuss how best to help your child in understanding their gifts. Audio For the Audio individual, everything you learn and everything you do is based on the sense of hearing. You learn best by listening to instructions, listening to how someone talks, or listening for tonal changes for a cue as to what to do next. For the gifted child, the majority of what they pick up either psychically or from Spirit is through Clairaudience, so when working with these children, we need to teach them and guide them through this channel. Visual For the Visual person, everything that is learned is through the eyes. These individuals learn best by either reading, or having something in front of them that they can see and take in the details with. Once they have this, they commit it to memory, and visualize it in their minds. For the gifted child, they receive their information either as a literal image or apparition, or as a movie reel in their minds, or as random images. Sensory The sensory individual learns by doing. Part of what they need is to feel objects in their hands, or piece it together themselves in order to understand how something works. Visual learning and hearing instruction is something that baffles them, and tends to frustrate them as well. The gifted child who is sensory oriented will need to express themselves and have thoughts and feelings expressed to them as well. They may need you to hug them, sooth them, or give them objects to hold when they are learning to work with their gifts. Exercises to work with different sensory types Audio- for this learning style, in helping your child to understand their gifts, talk to them about what they are hearing. Ask them questions. Have them describe what they are hearing. This will be important in their development in that they will learn to pay attention more to what they are listening to. When you talk to them, use a low toned voice and make sure you aren’t overbearing or loud. The Audio child needs a steady voice, as anything extreme is stressful and will make them pull into their shells. Remember, their ears are a delicate instrument, and should be treated as such. Exercises: For this, you will want to either have a Simon says, or a musical instrument that they can emulate. With the Simon says, have them repeat the sounds they are hearing (yes, it’s a memory game, it will help in school too!). If you choose to use an instrument, play a chord and have them repeat what you played. For example, if you have a piano, play a C chord, and have them hum it back to you. Children who are audio usually have a beautiful gift with music, and you will notice it soothes them as well. Another exercise you can do with them is have them practice tongue twisters, such as “Susie sells sea shells by the sea shore,” or, for older children, read them a couple of sentences from a book and have them repeat it. This will not only help them to enunciate, but will also help them in hearing different words that are being used. My son, who is also Clairaudient, likes to paint what he hears. It’s his way of putting the “music” to paper as he says, as he hears in color. Visual- for this learning style, ask your child to show you what they are seeing. Flip through picture books, have them draw what they are being shown, or sort through old family pictures if you think the person they are discussing is someone you know. Remember that with these children talking to them about it may not be helpful.They will have a tendency to become grouchy, as explaining things in words may be a challenge. The visual learners are our artists and authors, and you should treat them as such. What we see as a great imagination is how they see life and all its intricacies…appreciate this and help them develop it. Exercises: Exercises for the visual learner are fun and fulfilling for all involved. Ask your child to write a fairy tale if they are old enough to write, or have them draw a picture of the things they see in their mind. Find one of those side by side puzzles with the spot the differences and have them work on those. Play the actual memory game with them, as being able to remember what they see will help them as they grow older. Find one of the illusion books and have them look through there, finding the hidden objects or letting their eyes go out of focus to see what is not easily apparent. Sensory- For the sensory style of learning, you will need to work with your child in being able to convey what they are being given through their senses. This is one of the most delicate and often ignored aspects of gifts in children, as our society has very much put emotions and feelings on the back burner. This child is often delicate, sensitive to everything around them, and “overly” emotional when it is least expected. They are also the child who may be chronically sick or tired. They tend to take on what others are feeling, or just know things about people that doesn’t necessarily make sense. When your child tries to express themselves, make sure you stop and listen. They very rarely will repeat themselves if they feel they will be ignored. Exercises: For the sensory child, there are a variety of exercises you can do. Have them look at a picture and write down everything they feel or get from the picture. If they are old enough, have them practice “Automatic Writing.” Ask them to sit down and just write whatever comes to their mind. Let them finger paint or play with sculpting sand, and have them design whatever they are feeling. Have them sit outside in the grass with their eyes closed and describe to you everything they sense around them. All of these will help them gain confidence in who they are and how important what they feel or know is. As the parent, imbuing them with a sense of trust and confidence is one of the most important things you can do, especially for this child. I hope this little exerpt from one of my workshops has helped. If you have any questions,feel free to message me. Love, Gwen |
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