List of Questions for Spirit-
There are several core questions you should always ask Spirit in order to build a solid connection and give evidence to your sitter. When opening up, ask them to step forward showing/telling the first two questions when they engage you, and indicate the third question. If you are doing mental mediumship, have them show you/tell you the location. If you are doing physical mediumship, have them indicate on your body with a warmness or coldness (your preference) rather than giving you the pain from the passing. The rest you will ask once your connection is established.
Fluff!-
As a Medium, one of the most important things we do in our work is to engage in Evidential Mediumship. We are the conduit between this earthly plane and that of Spirit. What we bring to the table must leave the sitter feeling as though they have actually talked to their loved one on the other side. As Janet Nohavec once said, “I paint people back to life with my words, and I won’t settle for anything less than a verbal masterpiece every time.” As a medium, you need to be as detailed as possible, bringing evidence to the sitter. They are not with you for a psychic reading, they are with you to connect to their loved one. This means you need to describe in detail what you see, hear, feel, and sense from Spirit, NOT the sitter. What clothes are they wearing? Describe everything you see right down to their shoes. If you hear a song while connecting, convey that to your sitter. Do you see a photo of the person in Spirit sitting on their mantle at home? Let them know Spirit sees it as well! Yes, this is a LOT of hard work. You want to amaze yourself EVERY time with your accuracy and detail, as well as your client…not because you want to be world famous and in the limelight, or because you want to be rich, but because this is sacred, spiritual work. You are a messenger of the Creator to bring healing and closure to those who need it most, and to affirm that there is indeed life after we pass on. By showing the continuity of life, we help erase fears. By bringing a loved one forward with extreme detail, we dispel the notion that we will never see our loved ones again. Above all, we bring hope to those still here in human form.
When it comes to “fluff” as I like to call it, this is the finite details that you can gather from Spirit. It is also the icing on the cake for helping your client feel that you have indeed been a mouthpiece for their loved one on the other side. Often, this is all about drilling down with the details you are given. For example…
“I have a grandfather here with me in Spirit. He is about 6 ft tall, lean, and has salt and pepper hair. He is dressed in coveralls and has stains all over his clothes.”
OR
“It feels like I have a grandfather here with me in Spirit. He is standing on my left side, which to me indicates he is on your mother’s side. He stands about 6 ft tall but is slightly stooped over. He appears to be in his late 60’s early 70’s as well. His build is lean and wiry, like he has worked hard most of his life. His hair is salt and pepper, and he shows me that as a younger man it was black. His skin is rough, almost wind chapped in appearance. He is also dressed in coveralls, which have stains. It looks like the stains are dirt. He is showing me his hands, which are calloused, and he is indicating he worked outside. He is also showing me a tractor, which is my sign for farming.”
See the difference? From the information you are being given, you can drill down even further. Ask him what type of crops he harvested, or where the farm was located. Ask him to show you his “Sunday Best” and describe that as well. Once you have gathered as much information as you can from the initial connection, ask the Spirit to give you other important validation points and do the exact same thing.
What Fluff does NOT mean…
Never pad a reading with things that are not there. For example, you are scheduled to do a reading for an hour, but you have given as much information as you can get along with messages from Spirit for your sitter. You have 15 minutes left. What do you do? Open the reading to questions from your sitter. Do not just stretch it out by adding details that are not being given…this is extremely unethical. If there are no questions, recap any messages briefly, and tie up the session, thanking your sitter for allowing you to connect with them and their loved ones.
There are several core questions you should always ask Spirit in order to build a solid connection and give evidence to your sitter. When opening up, ask them to step forward showing/telling the first two questions when they engage you, and indicate the third question. If you are doing mental mediumship, have them show you/tell you the location. If you are doing physical mediumship, have them indicate on your body with a warmness or coldness (your preference) rather than giving you the pain from the passing. The rest you will ask once your connection is established.
- Are you male or female?
- Were you old or young when you passed?
- How did you pass?
- What is their relation to the sitter?
- Name?
- What did you do for a living?
- What do they look like?
- How do they dress?
- What was their personality like?
- What was their character like?
- What did they like to do?
- What important memories/dates would they like to share?
- Did they have pets?
- What things did they have in their home (important items to them)?
- Where did they live?
- Any special memories with/of the sitter?
- Do they have any scars or injuries?
- Is there any loved ones with them they can describe?
- Did they have a special nickname or a nickname for the sitter?
- Do they have any thank you’s or apologies?
- Do they leave any signs for the sitter that they are around?
- Messages for the sitter?
Fluff!-
As a Medium, one of the most important things we do in our work is to engage in Evidential Mediumship. We are the conduit between this earthly plane and that of Spirit. What we bring to the table must leave the sitter feeling as though they have actually talked to their loved one on the other side. As Janet Nohavec once said, “I paint people back to life with my words, and I won’t settle for anything less than a verbal masterpiece every time.” As a medium, you need to be as detailed as possible, bringing evidence to the sitter. They are not with you for a psychic reading, they are with you to connect to their loved one. This means you need to describe in detail what you see, hear, feel, and sense from Spirit, NOT the sitter. What clothes are they wearing? Describe everything you see right down to their shoes. If you hear a song while connecting, convey that to your sitter. Do you see a photo of the person in Spirit sitting on their mantle at home? Let them know Spirit sees it as well! Yes, this is a LOT of hard work. You want to amaze yourself EVERY time with your accuracy and detail, as well as your client…not because you want to be world famous and in the limelight, or because you want to be rich, but because this is sacred, spiritual work. You are a messenger of the Creator to bring healing and closure to those who need it most, and to affirm that there is indeed life after we pass on. By showing the continuity of life, we help erase fears. By bringing a loved one forward with extreme detail, we dispel the notion that we will never see our loved ones again. Above all, we bring hope to those still here in human form.
When it comes to “fluff” as I like to call it, this is the finite details that you can gather from Spirit. It is also the icing on the cake for helping your client feel that you have indeed been a mouthpiece for their loved one on the other side. Often, this is all about drilling down with the details you are given. For example…
“I have a grandfather here with me in Spirit. He is about 6 ft tall, lean, and has salt and pepper hair. He is dressed in coveralls and has stains all over his clothes.”
OR
“It feels like I have a grandfather here with me in Spirit. He is standing on my left side, which to me indicates he is on your mother’s side. He stands about 6 ft tall but is slightly stooped over. He appears to be in his late 60’s early 70’s as well. His build is lean and wiry, like he has worked hard most of his life. His hair is salt and pepper, and he shows me that as a younger man it was black. His skin is rough, almost wind chapped in appearance. He is also dressed in coveralls, which have stains. It looks like the stains are dirt. He is showing me his hands, which are calloused, and he is indicating he worked outside. He is also showing me a tractor, which is my sign for farming.”
See the difference? From the information you are being given, you can drill down even further. Ask him what type of crops he harvested, or where the farm was located. Ask him to show you his “Sunday Best” and describe that as well. Once you have gathered as much information as you can from the initial connection, ask the Spirit to give you other important validation points and do the exact same thing.
What Fluff does NOT mean…
Never pad a reading with things that are not there. For example, you are scheduled to do a reading for an hour, but you have given as much information as you can get along with messages from Spirit for your sitter. You have 15 minutes left. What do you do? Open the reading to questions from your sitter. Do not just stretch it out by adding details that are not being given…this is extremely unethical. If there are no questions, recap any messages briefly, and tie up the session, thanking your sitter for allowing you to connect with them and their loved ones.
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