As someone who grew up seeing Spirit, not having a parent around who could help explain or help me understand what I saw was a huge burden. As an adult, I have worked hard to make sure other children don't go through the same issues that I myself went through, and I have put together several classes and workshops to help with this. Here, I will address some tips to help you as a parent or caregiver help the child who is gifted.
Signs to Look For
How to Communicate Effectively
In communicating with gifted children there is a certain finesse that needs to be undertaken. As they are naturally sensitive, how you come across to them and how they receive it is of the utmost importance. Every person learns in a different manner, and when we communicate, this needs to be taken into consideration. Let’s begin by touching on the different learning styles, and from there we will discuss how best to help your child in understanding their gifts.
Audio
For the Audio individual, everything you learn and everything you do is based on the sense of hearing. You learn best by listening to instructions, listening to how someone talks, or listening for tonal changes for a cue as to what to do next. For the gifted child, the majority of what they pick up either psychically or from Spirit is through Clairaudience, so when working with these children, we need to teach them and guide them through this channel.
Visual
For the Visual person, everything that is learned is through the eyes. These individuals learn best by either reading, or having something in front of them that they can see and take in the details with. Once they have this, they commit it to memory, and visualize it in their minds. For the gifted child, they receive their information either as a literal image or apparition, or as a movie reel in their minds, or as random images.
Sensory
The sensory individual learns by doing. Part of what they need is to feel objects in their hands, or piece it together themselves in order to understand how something works. Visual learning and hearing instruction is something that baffles them, and tends to frustrate them as well. The gifted child who is sensory oriented will need to express themselves and have thoughts and feelings expressed to them as well. They may need you to hug them, sooth them, or give them objects to hold when they are learning to work with their gifts.
Exercises to work with different sensory types
Audio- for this learning style, in helping your child to understand their gifts, talk to them about what they are hearing. Ask them questions. Have them describe what they are hearing. This will be important in their development in that they will learn to pay attention more to what they are listening to. When you talk to them, use a low toned voice and make sure you aren’t overbearing or loud. The Audio child needs a steady voice, as anything extreme is stressful and will make them pull into their shells. Remember, their ears are a delicate instrument, and should be treated as such.
Exercises: For this, you will want to either have a Simon says, or a musical instrument that they can emulate. With the Simon says, have them repeat the sounds they are hearing (yes, it’s a memory game, it will help in school too!). If you choose to use an instrument, play a chord and have them repeat what you played. For example, if you have a piano, play a C chord, and have them hum it back to you. Children who are audio usually have a beautiful gift with music, and you will notice it soothes them as well. Another exercise you can do with them is have them practice tongue twisters, such as “Susie sells sea shells by the sea shore,” or, for older children, read them a couple of sentences from a book and have them repeat it. This will not only help them to enunciate, but will also help them in hearing different words that are being used. My son, who is also Clairaudient, likes to paint what he hears. It’s his way of putting the “music” to paper as he says, as he hears in color.
Visual- for this learning style, ask your child to show you what they are seeing. Flip through picture books, have them draw what they are being shown, or sort through old family pictures if you think the person they are discussing is someone you know. Remember that with these children talking to them about it may not be helpful.They will have a tendency to become grouchy, as explaining things in words may be a challenge. The visual learners are our artists and authors, and you should treat them as such. What we see as a great imagination is how they see life and all its intricacies…appreciate this and help them develop it.
Exercises: Exercises for the visual learner are fun and fulfilling for all involved. Ask your child to write a fairy tale if they are old enough to write, or have them draw a picture of the things they see in their mind. Find one of those side by side puzzles with the spot the differences and have them work on those. Play the actual memory game with them, as being able to remember what they see will help them as they grow older. Find one of the illusion books and have them look through there, finding the hidden objects or letting their eyes go out of focus to see what is not easily apparent.
Sensory- For the sensory style of learning, you will need to work with your child in being able to convey what they are being given through their senses. This is one of the most delicate and often ignored aspects of gifts in children, as our society has very much put emotions and feelings on the back burner. This child is often delicate, sensitive to everything around them, and “overly” emotional when it is least expected. They are also the child who may be chronically sick or tired. They tend to take on what others are feeling, or just know things about people that doesn’t necessarily make sense. When your child tries to express themselves, make sure you stop and listen. They very rarely will repeat themselves if they feel they will be ignored.
Exercises: For the sensory child, there are a variety of exercises you can do. Have them look at a picture and write down everything they feel or get from the picture. If they are old enough, have them practice “Automatic Writing.” Ask them to sit down and just write whatever comes to their mind. Let them finger paint or play with sculpting sand, and have them design whatever they are feeling. Have them sit outside in the grass with their eyes closed and describe to you everything they sense around them. All of these will help them gain confidence in who they are and how important what they feel or know is. As the parent, imbuing them with a sense of trust and confidence is one of the most important things you can do, especially for this child.
I hope this little exerpt from one of my workshops has helped. If you have any questions,feel free to message me.
Love,
Gwen
Signs to Look For
- Talking to themselves
- Imaginary friends
- painting pictures of unknown people
- discussing another life
- discussing family that passed before their birth
- talking to animals
- needing alone time
- needing a night light
- “predicting” things that will happen
- knowing who is calling
- recognizing places they have never been
- knowing things about people they have no way of knowing
- being afraid of noises/places/people
- sensitive to light/sound/people
- disliking crowds
- sensitive to others emotions
- very tactile/texture oriented
- very emotional and sensitive
- extremely creative
- very imaginative
- large vocabularies
- may be constantly in motion
- possible “label” of ADD,ADHD,Autistic
- very musically oriented
- shy/withdrawn frequently
- talking in their sleep
- sleep walking
- frequently moody
How to Communicate Effectively
In communicating with gifted children there is a certain finesse that needs to be undertaken. As they are naturally sensitive, how you come across to them and how they receive it is of the utmost importance. Every person learns in a different manner, and when we communicate, this needs to be taken into consideration. Let’s begin by touching on the different learning styles, and from there we will discuss how best to help your child in understanding their gifts.
Audio
For the Audio individual, everything you learn and everything you do is based on the sense of hearing. You learn best by listening to instructions, listening to how someone talks, or listening for tonal changes for a cue as to what to do next. For the gifted child, the majority of what they pick up either psychically or from Spirit is through Clairaudience, so when working with these children, we need to teach them and guide them through this channel.
Visual
For the Visual person, everything that is learned is through the eyes. These individuals learn best by either reading, or having something in front of them that they can see and take in the details with. Once they have this, they commit it to memory, and visualize it in their minds. For the gifted child, they receive their information either as a literal image or apparition, or as a movie reel in their minds, or as random images.
Sensory
The sensory individual learns by doing. Part of what they need is to feel objects in their hands, or piece it together themselves in order to understand how something works. Visual learning and hearing instruction is something that baffles them, and tends to frustrate them as well. The gifted child who is sensory oriented will need to express themselves and have thoughts and feelings expressed to them as well. They may need you to hug them, sooth them, or give them objects to hold when they are learning to work with their gifts.
Exercises to work with different sensory types
Audio- for this learning style, in helping your child to understand their gifts, talk to them about what they are hearing. Ask them questions. Have them describe what they are hearing. This will be important in their development in that they will learn to pay attention more to what they are listening to. When you talk to them, use a low toned voice and make sure you aren’t overbearing or loud. The Audio child needs a steady voice, as anything extreme is stressful and will make them pull into their shells. Remember, their ears are a delicate instrument, and should be treated as such.
Exercises: For this, you will want to either have a Simon says, or a musical instrument that they can emulate. With the Simon says, have them repeat the sounds they are hearing (yes, it’s a memory game, it will help in school too!). If you choose to use an instrument, play a chord and have them repeat what you played. For example, if you have a piano, play a C chord, and have them hum it back to you. Children who are audio usually have a beautiful gift with music, and you will notice it soothes them as well. Another exercise you can do with them is have them practice tongue twisters, such as “Susie sells sea shells by the sea shore,” or, for older children, read them a couple of sentences from a book and have them repeat it. This will not only help them to enunciate, but will also help them in hearing different words that are being used. My son, who is also Clairaudient, likes to paint what he hears. It’s his way of putting the “music” to paper as he says, as he hears in color.
Visual- for this learning style, ask your child to show you what they are seeing. Flip through picture books, have them draw what they are being shown, or sort through old family pictures if you think the person they are discussing is someone you know. Remember that with these children talking to them about it may not be helpful.They will have a tendency to become grouchy, as explaining things in words may be a challenge. The visual learners are our artists and authors, and you should treat them as such. What we see as a great imagination is how they see life and all its intricacies…appreciate this and help them develop it.
Exercises: Exercises for the visual learner are fun and fulfilling for all involved. Ask your child to write a fairy tale if they are old enough to write, or have them draw a picture of the things they see in their mind. Find one of those side by side puzzles with the spot the differences and have them work on those. Play the actual memory game with them, as being able to remember what they see will help them as they grow older. Find one of the illusion books and have them look through there, finding the hidden objects or letting their eyes go out of focus to see what is not easily apparent.
Sensory- For the sensory style of learning, you will need to work with your child in being able to convey what they are being given through their senses. This is one of the most delicate and often ignored aspects of gifts in children, as our society has very much put emotions and feelings on the back burner. This child is often delicate, sensitive to everything around them, and “overly” emotional when it is least expected. They are also the child who may be chronically sick or tired. They tend to take on what others are feeling, or just know things about people that doesn’t necessarily make sense. When your child tries to express themselves, make sure you stop and listen. They very rarely will repeat themselves if they feel they will be ignored.
Exercises: For the sensory child, there are a variety of exercises you can do. Have them look at a picture and write down everything they feel or get from the picture. If they are old enough, have them practice “Automatic Writing.” Ask them to sit down and just write whatever comes to their mind. Let them finger paint or play with sculpting sand, and have them design whatever they are feeling. Have them sit outside in the grass with their eyes closed and describe to you everything they sense around them. All of these will help them gain confidence in who they are and how important what they feel or know is. As the parent, imbuing them with a sense of trust and confidence is one of the most important things you can do, especially for this child.
I hope this little exerpt from one of my workshops has helped. If you have any questions,feel free to message me.
Love,
Gwen
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